Consistency Over Motivation

Too often when I show up for myself or for the people around me it comes from motivation to be better. I want to grow stronger, I want to be wiser or I want to become something new. I pump myself up and I am envisioning who that new me will be or look like. I start with plans for days and start off so strong everything feels changed. As we all know the new goals and excitement lasts about a week, maybe longer. Old habits start to invade the new and it all crumbles. I always am so hard on myself when this happens as I feel like a failure. “Why did I do everything I could to be something more or better?” The lies creep in and I feel like I don't deserve to be something more. Over and over again. 

How do you avoid this? 

It has taken me a long time to realize how toxic my relationship with myself was when I was trying to change who I was overnight. Being satisfied in who you are does not mean you don't want to get better or become a healthier version of yourself. To be satisfied means to me, I am a continent in who I am now, knowing I am always here for me, good or bad. During times of pain or triumph I am the only one who has myself and knows myself fully. I need to be able to celebrate myself now. It has taken time but it's always rewarding to value yourself. What drives my success in myself is the consistency I have to show up for me. I can be motivated for days but what makes the most impact and change is being consistent. Who I am today is what I showed up with whether or not it was easy or I wanted too. In order to make it stick you have to make slow easy changes that over time snowball into bigger changes. Think of the tortoise and the hare. Going slow and taking your time always wins. Take the time to sit down and think about your life, your daily schedule and what changes you want to see. Go slow and make a commitment to take one step at a time. The changes that happen overnight are not going to be the ones you carry on. Go slow, you got this. I believe in you.